For many who are lonely, chronically ill or in constant pain, summer holidays are especially difficult. Watching parades seems impossible as standing for long periods is painful. Invitations to picnics are declined because of special diets and the energy to socialize is overwhelming. There is relief that Memorial Day weekend is over and life can return to its normal painful routine. Until July 4th, Labor Day Weekend, and other summer activities arrive.
Suffering from chronic illness and pain does not mean forgoing activities that you want to attend. Planning and communicating with friends and family can make the summer and all its festivities fun. Let this summer be one of joy.
Here are a few suggestions:
- If you want to attend neighborhood events, find a place ahead of time where you think you’ll feel comfortable. Arrive early and bring a comfortable chair, water, and food that you can eat.
- When invited to a party, inform the host ahead of time if you have food limitations and not to take offense when you bring your own food. Many hosts will accommodate you with some dishes that you can eat.
- Want to take a vacation but feel too limited by your illness? Sometimes it’s easier traveling alone so you don’t worry about pleasing others but not everyone is comfortable traveling solo. If you don’t like the idea of traveling alone, consider taking a short trip with a close friend or loved one. Explain your limitations ahead of time and urge your travel partners that exploring without you is fine if you need to rest back at the hotel. Be sure you have enough medication for when unplanned delays occur.
- Enjoy the fresh air when possible. Depending on where you live, find the best time of day when you are comfortable outdoors and deeply inhale the fresh air. Face the morning sun and allow the vitamin D to absorb into your face. Marvel at the sunset, a distant thunderstorm, the stars in the sky. Even a few minutes outside can do wonders for your frame of mind.
- Be good to yourself this summer by resting and finding small pleasures. A hammock under a shade tree, lounging in a screened in porch, or sitting on the fire escape in the city can do wonders for you even on those days when you feel especially lousy.
If none of these ideas sound possible to you, I want to help you find ways that work for you to enjoy this summer. Contact me and we can work together to make the coming months (and years) more joyful.
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